When you are asked “How. Are. You?”
Be honest and answer candidly.
Say exactly how you feel:
I. Am…
Happy. Excited. Great. Wonderful. Good. Elated.
OR. I. Am…
Sad. Tired. Weak. Unhappy. Stressed. Weary. In pain. Demotivated. Overwhelmed. Depressed. Sick. Tired of life.
Don’t just give that robotic reply:
“I Am Fine. Thank You”.
That appears to be the norm.
Yeah, the basic or standard response that oftentimes does not depict our true mood or feelings.
Don’t be shy. Be honest about it.
Just say it as it is with you. Especially to family members, close friends and loved ones.
Share your Problems and Fears!
There are many ways to do so now.
You never know. Some of us have good listening ears. Oh yes!
Some people are ever willing to render help if you feel comfortable to share your story of pain.
AND
There’s a likelihood of getting help quickly when a problem is shared.
Remember, a problem shared is a problem half solved.
Don’t face your struggles alone thinking help will not come.
Don’t suffer in silence.
Your case may not be the worst one or the most difficult case as you might think.
Life is a daily struggle. For. Everybody.
Everyone faces challenges. Problems. Trials. Betrayals.
Everyone experiences that period of melancholy.
As well as
Excruciating pains and depleting moments.
These trial periods are part of existence.
Therefore, your problems are not peculiar to you alone.
So, Don’t even try to give up on yourself.
Suicide?
This is a no-no
Never make it an option.
Don’t even dare press that trigger!
Don’t contemplate it.
And don’t succumb to the negative vibes on your head.
Be expressive
Speak out
Help will surely come to you sooner than you think.
May God help us all.
Peace and Love!
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I think most of the time we say we’re “fine” because anything less would lead to having to explain ourselves… true friends can tell how we’re doing without a word being spoken…
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Sometimes, people just want to hide their vulnerability but of course, those close friendships can tell the situation of things.
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I am simply fabulous!
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Awesome. And I am elated. 😂 Here’s wishing you a good start to the weekend. 😂
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Thanks Stella!
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You’re most welcome. 🙏🏽
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I wrote a poem along these lines once. Sometimes we need someone to just probe a little deeper into how we are feeling so we can let it out.
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That’s right. People open up when they find some extra show of affection.
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“Remember, a problem shared is a problem half solved.” 🙏✨ I am hopeful!!
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Indeed, I am hopful. We’d cross the bridge when we get tired.
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Well stated! Some people live behind a facade. Everything facing out looks normal and at peace. Behind the scenes, life may be out of control, face overwhelming circumstances, or anything else that is chipping away at our physical, emotional, and mental strength day-by-day. Many find help through others as well as taking a more active pattern of reading the Bible and prayer. Jesus brings peace and salvation for those who are ready to follow him.
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Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. People tend to hide behind a mask to avoid exposing their vulnerability. As a Christian, I channel my frustrations towards God, Lol, by reading His words which soothes and rekindles hope. Of course, reaching out to others for help is wisdom. Have a wonderful weekend. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
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Well said. I have on occasion bumped into people I know who are terminally ill, and who still respond in an automated way, “I’m fine.” when clearly they are not on any level.
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Somehow responding in that manner is automated and robotic. It seems the acceptable norm and anything contrary becomes unusual. Without thinking, the response comes out effortlessly even when plagued with the harshest realities.
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Yes, and the harsh realities are kept hidden, but the inner work is never done.
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Yes, we should always reach out to one another, being vulnerable and accepting the fact that we do need help is the first and most important step.
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On point. That’s how it should be and I hope we’d get to that period in time when people are not ashamed to seek help and share their stories without being judged.
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yeah, because sometimes our scars can become lighthouses for others
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True that. And it helps to speak out.
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