Have you ever considered the words spoken to you at some point in your life? I mean those words that cut deep and pierce your heart. Those harsh words that ring a bell in your head when you remember them.
Words are powerful. Be it negative or positive words.
The words we utter and the words we speak are powerful and we should guide our tongues before making any utterances.
Most people react to words. Most people are sensitive to words spoken to them and how they are said. Guide against speaking nasty and sarcastic words to people because even when you later apologise, the deed is already done and such horrible expressions cannot be taken back. It will be stuck in the head of that person. At least that is my experience with such spiteful or hateful languages.
During moments of reflections, I’ve pondered over some ugly words targeted at me by others. And some even induce tears to my eyes. It shows how important words are to people. It shows how our words affect the human psyche.
I remembered when I was planning to study in Europe and I sought the help of friends. A very dear friend at that time told me that I should not think of studying abroad when I cannot afford the huge financial involvement. I asked her to borrow me some money which I will refund in a short time, as soon as I secure a student job but her response startled me and I still remember those words till date.
She said to me – “Do you know what £1,000 (BP) is? Do you know the equivalent of that money in Naira (Nigerian currency)? Do you know it’s a big amount? Even though I can afford it, Stella, I cannot give this huge sum to you because it’s such a big money to give towards a vague dream. Don’t be too ambitious. You should study in Nigeria and stop measuring shoulders with the affluent.”
That was it. That was too much to tell a friend who only wanted support and encouragement. I walked out of her office downcast. That encounter with her revealed her inner convictions about me and my goals. I left her office and continued with my applications to tertiary institutions abroad. Not long after, I was offered a scholarship in Denmark.
The rest is history as the saying goes. That amount she called hugely was my monthly stipend (scholarship fund) as a Master’s student in Denmark. Can you imagine that?
Even though it’s a decade now, her words are stuck in my head. And I use that experience to guide my relationships towards other people.
Has anyone said something that made you feel bad?
Has anyone spoken nasty words to you that makes you cry sometimes?
Have you been rudely spoken to that you feel inadequate? What was it?
Would you like to talk about it?
Kindly share your experience so we can learn. 🙂
Peace and Love!
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