The rate of suicide has been on the increase in recent times. And in a space of one week, the ugly incidence of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain causes a stir in my mind. It shivers down my spine. And I wondered about the reason for this urge to end one’s life? What could be the state of mind at that instance when one decides that the only option left was suicide?
There was a story I read about an independent medical practitioner with a busy medical clinic in the United States. He had always nursed the dream of leaving the clinic to his son, who was a medical student. However, his dream was truncated as his son returned home one weekend, ate his food ferociously and retired to his room located in the basement. Alas! By morning his body was found hanging. The son has taken his life while the father was upstairs oblivious of the creepy act.
Last week the world heard the shocking news of Kate Spade’s death by suicide (hanging). This was a lady ahead of her time. A fashion icon whose empire is worth over $2.5 billion. Due to these seemingly painful tragedies, I had a disturbing moment as I thought about the conditions that would make one commit suicide, the decision and agony of such contemplation, and the moment of committing such audacious act. Ouch… Gosh!
Kate Spade was worth $2.5 billion, so money to live a glamorous life or get a treatment wasn’t an issue. But despite having everything the eyes could see, she really didn’t have it all going by this abrupt end of taking own life.
Anthony Bourdain found dead in a hotel in France from an apparent suicide. In case you don’t know him, he was the world-renowned chef that hosted his own show, “Anthony Bourdain: Parts Unknown”, on CNN. I must admit that I’ve worried about him getting seriously ill from some of the things I saw him eat in his show. This is the second celebrity in a week that died from apparent suicides.
But Depression is quite complex, involving an array of chemicals which may be caused by medical illness, medications, genetic vulnerability etcetera. A depressed person needs expert advice and perhaps treatment. Mental illness and depression, in particular, does not care about your net worth and can take the richest and strongest down.
It’s a scary phenomenon and I hope that people are aware that this twin illness is real and can happen to anyone. It has no respect for any job, talent, background, gender or race. It punches a deadly blow on the rich, poor, and everyone in between. And it’s a bitch. It’s a killer that happens if proper attention is not paid to the symptoms.
Can this be an eye-opener for everyone with a soul? Can we be kinder, and care a little more about others? Can we go beyond the mere verbal utterances of “How are you” and truly and sincerely seek to know how the other person is doing? Can we listen more when others wish to share their personal struggles with us? Can we embrace people and find out about their welfare without boxing them to a corner just because we feel they are wealthy and have everything in their favour?
Let’s be more observant of the people around us. Let’s look for possible signs when friends and family members suddenly change. The moment someone close to you becomes extraordinarily reserved, talks less, avoid people, limits social activities, I think we should keep a watchful eye on such a person. Perhaps, have a talk to ascertain that all is well with him or her because it’s possible that the person is losing touch with reality due to struggles within. Yeah, when it comes to trials and tribulations, challenges and depression, it’s obvious that no amount of money, enormous wealth, fame and affluence can keep one away from an acute state of brokenness and vulnerability.
The truth is that we don’t all have it all. Don’t let anyone or anything distract or deceive you about this reality. Some people may have at one point or another contemplated a self-inflicted suicide, but by sheer willpower or support network around them, such ‘evil’ tendencies were averted.
It behoves on people to let others know how they feel. Whenever you are depressed or down in spirit, please talk to a friend or even your enemy as the case may be. Spare your family and loved ones and the entire human race the anguish of waking up to your death aided by suicide. It’s not easy, I know but I hope we are able to snap out of glooming or depressing moods.
Jettison the idea of committing suicide. Please let this not be an option you wish to embrace.
Finally, stop wishing and praying that you have someone else’s life and be thankful for your own life. Be thankful for where you are because you never know the struggles others wrestle in their life’s journey.
Peace and Love!
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